Rediscovering Gratitude Just in Time for Thanksgiving

I frequently wrap up my Zen Under Ten talks with a quick review of what I think of as some of the low-hanging fruit practices – meaning those practices that require minimal time or effort on our part that can have a big impact on our moods, our resiliency, our overall happiness. Without question, to me the number one item on that hit list is gratitude journalling, and I …

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Minding my Own Mind

Travel hockey tryouts were this week and watching my son skate across the ice over and over and over again, I realize that I learned more about myself than Zach’s coaches could possibly have ever learned about him.

To set the stage just a little, next hockey season Zach will be moving up to the next age bracket, kind of like going from ruling the school in your last …

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A Loving-Kindness Practice for Young Children

The expansive open-heartedness of loving-kindness and compassion practices is one of the greatest gifts we can offer our children.

In Metta Meditation we train in opening our hearts through the repetition of four heartfelt wishes that we send first to ourselves and then outward to an ever-expanding community, until we are able to hold the entire world in the loving-kindness of our attention. Even if we’ve never practiced Metta …

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Heartfelt Blessings at Bedtime

Each night I soothe my daughter to sleep with these blessings that are my personal version of the four heartfelt wishes of Metta Meditation.

At 4 years old it is the ritual of the loving attention that matters more than the content, but I like to think that as she gets older, the meaning of the words will take root in her spirit and send her into the world …

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Let's Celebrate our Imperfection

Do we always have to be perfect? Of course the answer is no. We can’t. It’s simply not possible. So why do we like to pretend that we can?

The other day, as I was heading down to the subway platform, I witnessed a woman slip on the stairs. She didn’t take a particularly nasty fall, but she had lost one of her shoes and was now perched precariously …

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